BE-DO-HAVE
Goals are the ‘have’ part of those three words. Goals such as to have a nice body, or to have a perfect relationship, or to have millions of dollars, or to have great health, or to have fame. Once most people figure out what they want to have, their goal, they begin listing what they have ‘to do’. That is why most people have ‘To Do’ lists. They set their goal and then begin ‘doing’.
What most people do when they want a perfect body is go on a diet, and then go to the gym. This lasts for a few weeks and then most are back to the old diet of French fries and Subway, and instead of going to the gym, they watch Spa Q 2 on TV. This is an example of ‘doing’ instead of ‘being’. It’s not the diet that counts; it’s who you have to be to follow the diet that counts. Yet, every millions of people look for the perfect diet to follow in order to become thin. They focus on what they have to do, rather than who they have to be. A diet will not help if your thoughts do not change.
Many people buy a new set of golf clubs in hopes that they can improve their game, instead of starting with the attitude, mind-set, and beliefs of a professional golfer. A lousy golfer with a new set of golf clubs is still a lousy golfer.
Many people think that buying stocks or mutual funds will make them rich. Well, simply buying stocks, mutual funds, real estate and bonds will not make you rich. Just doing what professional investors do does not guarantee financial success. A person who has a loser mentality will always lose no matter what stock, bond, real estate or mutual fund they buy.
So many people go to bars or to work or to their nearest mall looking for the perfect person, the person of their dreams. That is what they ‘do’. What they ‘do’ is go and look for the ‘right person’ instead of work on ‘being the right person’.
In marriages, many people try to change the other person so they can have a better marriage. Instead of trying to change the other person, which often leads to fights, it is better to change yourself first. Don’t work on the other person; work on your thoughts about that person.
Many people who were out to ‘change the world’ but were not getting anywhere. They wanted to change everyone else, but not change themselves.
And when it comes to money, many people try ‘to do’ what the rich do and ‘to have’ what the rich have. So they go out and buy a house that looks rich, a car that looks rich, and send their kids to the schools where the rich send their kids. All this does is cause these people ‘to do’ by working harder and ‘to have’ more debt, which causes them to work even harder, which is not the truly rich do.
The good news is that it does not cost much money to change your thinking. In fact, it can be done for free. The bad news is that sometimes it’s hard to change some deep core thoughts that are handed down from generation to generation, or thought that we learned from friends, from work, and from school. Yet, it can be done.
What most people do when they want a perfect body is go on a diet, and then go to the gym. This lasts for a few weeks and then most are back to the old diet of French fries and Subway, and instead of going to the gym, they watch Spa Q 2 on TV. This is an example of ‘doing’ instead of ‘being’. It’s not the diet that counts; it’s who you have to be to follow the diet that counts. Yet, every millions of people look for the perfect diet to follow in order to become thin. They focus on what they have to do, rather than who they have to be. A diet will not help if your thoughts do not change.
Many people buy a new set of golf clubs in hopes that they can improve their game, instead of starting with the attitude, mind-set, and beliefs of a professional golfer. A lousy golfer with a new set of golf clubs is still a lousy golfer.
Many people think that buying stocks or mutual funds will make them rich. Well, simply buying stocks, mutual funds, real estate and bonds will not make you rich. Just doing what professional investors do does not guarantee financial success. A person who has a loser mentality will always lose no matter what stock, bond, real estate or mutual fund they buy.
So many people go to bars or to work or to their nearest mall looking for the perfect person, the person of their dreams. That is what they ‘do’. What they ‘do’ is go and look for the ‘right person’ instead of work on ‘being the right person’.
In marriages, many people try to change the other person so they can have a better marriage. Instead of trying to change the other person, which often leads to fights, it is better to change yourself first. Don’t work on the other person; work on your thoughts about that person.
Many people who were out to ‘change the world’ but were not getting anywhere. They wanted to change everyone else, but not change themselves.
And when it comes to money, many people try ‘to do’ what the rich do and ‘to have’ what the rich have. So they go out and buy a house that looks rich, a car that looks rich, and send their kids to the schools where the rich send their kids. All this does is cause these people ‘to do’ by working harder and ‘to have’ more debt, which causes them to work even harder, which is not the truly rich do.
The good news is that it does not cost much money to change your thinking. In fact, it can be done for free. The bad news is that sometimes it’s hard to change some deep core thoughts that are handed down from generation to generation, or thought that we learned from friends, from work, and from school. Yet, it can be done.
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